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Peace at Home Family Shelter

National Teen Dating and Violence Awareness Month

February is National Teen Dating and Violence Prevention and Awareness Month! While our primary focus here at The Peace at Home Shelter is empowering survivors of domestic violence, it’s important to know that relational abuse does not occur only between adults. In fact, it’s estimated that over 1.5 million high school students have experienced physical abuse in their relationships. The cycle of abuse is a learned behavior, and there is not any specific cap determining to or from whom, and where, it can happen.


(Graphic provided by BreaktheCycle, which has a lot of information on both domestic abuse and teen dating violence.)

Many signs of abuse in teenage relationships are similar to domestic abuse. A relationship may be unhealthy or abusive if a partner:

  • is extremely jealous/possessive
  • has an explosive temper or constant mood swings
  • uses technology/social media to stalk, threaten, or intimidate you
  • isolates you from family or friends
  • lies, ignores, or accuses you falsely of things
  • physically inflicts pain or threatens to hurt you
  • pressures you to to engage in activities you do not want to do

Any type of abuse is never caused by a survivor’s actions, despite how the abuser may defend themselves. If you or someone you know is at risk, there are many things you can do to get help.

  • talk with an adult you can trust about your relationship
  • end contact with the abuser/partner
  • block abuser on social media
  • change your phone number

Surviving and recovering from an abusive relationship takes intentional effort. Having the courage to get help and talk about it is the first step. A support system is very helpful for someone who has experienced dating violence or abuse. There are many resources available to help you navigate what can a scary, unsafe, and emotional situation. If you or someone you know wants to learn more about what teen dating violence can look like, check out Love Is Respect or the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence.

Peace at Home Family Shelter cannot provide shelter to unaccompanied minors. Please contact us at 479-442-9811 if you have any questions or are in need of help.

Santa Sack is Coming Up Soon!

It's time to start planning Peace at Home's annual Santa Sack holiday event!

Santa Sack is an opportunity to support women and children (and also men and their children) who have successfully left abusive living arrangements.  These families often struggle financially and the parents worry that their children will not have a Christmas because they simply cannot afford to buy presents.

Members of the community make Christmas a reality by donating new toys for the children and new gift items for the adults.  On the day of Santa Sack, moms (or dads) pick out gifts for their children and the children pick out gifts for them.  It is a festive event for volunteers, staff and especially the families we serve.

Santa Sack is a fun-filled day where families get to pick out gifts, take Christmas pictures, and enjoy holiday activities! We need volunteers and donors to help make the event a success!

We hope you will be able to help us.  We need donations of new toys, gifts, wrapping paper, tape, and gift cards.  We also need volunteers to help set up tables, assist individuals picking out gifts, and wrap the gifts.  Enclosed with this letter is a list of gift ideas that would be appropriate for Santa Sack.

Santa Sack 2018 will be held on Friday, December 14, 2018.  Clients will be invited to come between 10:00 a.m. and 8:00 p.m. We will set up the gift tables on Thursday, December 13 between 10:00 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.  All gift donations should be received by noon on Thursday, December 13. Volunteers will be needed from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Thursday and from 10:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. Friday.

If you are interested in helping us share Christmas with the families we serve, please contact Jean Kebis at 479 717-6417 or jkebis@peaceathomeshelter.com.

We hope you will be part of this fun and joyful holiday event!

“If you try to leave me, I’ll…” Threats in Domestic Violence

Often times, abusers will use threats to keep a victim of domestic violence from trying to leave the relationship.

Common threats that survivors have told us they have heard from their abusive partners include threats to  –

  • Abduct the children or seek sole custody
  • Get the victim fired from their workplace
  • Have the victim deported or destroy their immigration documents
  • Harm the family pet
  • Destroy any property or possessions left behind
  • “Out” the victim to coworkers or family members 
  • Commit suicide or other self-harm
  • Become more physically violent or kill the victim

It is important to remember that no one deserves to be or enjoys being abused and that leaving a violent relationship is the most dangerous time for the victim. Abusers often feel very much out of control at this point and tend to retaliate and become more violent as a result. Statistically, this time is the most dangerous for victims:

75% of women who are killed as the result of a violent relationship are killed after the relationship has ended.

The fear felt by many victims of domestic violence is why emergency shelter like Peace at Home Family Shelter is so crucial.

If your partner is threatening you to keep you in the relationship, we can help.

Find a safe phone and contact us at 479-442-9811 and remember to always call 911 if there is an emergency or you feel your life is in danger.

Domestic Violence and Child Custody FAQ

Child custody issues come up frequently when survivors of domestic violence leave the abusive relationship. Below are some of the most common questions we receive about child custody. Contact our legal department today at 479-442-9811 if you have additional questions or need legal representation.

Can an abusive parent get custody or visitation?

An abusive parent may be allowed custody or visitation if the judge believes you and your children can stay safe. To ensure this, the judge can require supervised visits or arrange for the pick-up and drop-off of your children to take place in a protected space.

If the judge does not believe you or your children are still in danger, he/she may order custody or visitation without any protective measures. As a result, it is important the judge believes you when you talk about the violence. You may want to keep evidence of the violence ready, if you have any.

If you feel there is a risk of violence, you can ask the judge:

  • For pick-up and drop-off of your children to happen in a protected place
  • To allow someone other than you to deliver or pick-up the children for visits
  • To allow only email contact between the parents

How does a judge make decisions about custody?

The judge will always look to the child’s best interests. So if you are filing for custody, you should be able to show how the custody arrangement you want is in your child’s best interests. To do this, you should be prepared with as much information as possible about yourself and the other parent. If you are accusing the other parent of abuse, the judge will look at the abuser’s history of causing such injury, physical harm, assault, or causing reasonable fear of injury, physical harm, and assault to another person.

A judge may look at a history of drug or alcohol abuse and order testing for either or both parents. If the child is of a sufficient age and mental capacity, the judge can also consider the preferences of the child.

What is mediation?

Mediation uses a neutral third-party to help parents agree on issues relating to custody and visitation of the child. The court may order you to take part in mediation.

You should talk to a lawyer or domestic violence advocate before going to mediation, or have a lawyer go with you if you can. Your abuser may use mediation as an opportunity for further control and abuse, and he/she may intimidate you into thinking an agreement is reasonable when it may not be. A lawyer and/or victim advocate can help you prepare for this.

How can Peace at Home help?

If you have experienced domestic violence and are going through a custody dispute with your abuser, you do not have to go through the process alone.  Peace at Home’s legal department can help you acquire legal representation, accompany you to the court hearing, provide you with emotional support, and help you develop a safety plan. Call 479.442.9811 to speak with an advocate about our legal services.


Meet our new Staff Attorney – Katelyn Admire

Katelyn Admire recently joined the team at Peace at Home Family Shelter as our second Staff Attorney. Read below to learn more about our newest team member and her role helping survivors of domestic violence in Northwest Arkansas. 

The Peace at Home Family Shelter Legal Program provides legal representation, court accompaniment, advocacy, and assistance to over 200 families every year.

What is your role at Peace at Home?

As one of two Staff Attorneys at Peace at Home, I am responsible for coordinating with other victim service providers to assist clients in finding assistance for (primarily) family and immigration law issues. For clients who are unable to receive services from these other providers, I will offer legal advice and representation to both resident and outreach clients in cases involving divorce, paternity, custody, visitation, child support, and orders of protection.

What are you most excited about in starting your role at Peace at Home?

I’ve always considered home to be a safe, comfortable place, but understand that not everyone has that luxury. This position will allow me to assist women in my community who consider home to be a place of fear or uncertainty to change their circumstances.

Who inspires you?

I was inspired by my grandmother, who worked in law firms for decades and was very talented in her role, at a time when there were few women in the legal career. This led me to go to law school and become an attorney. She was a strong, brilliant woman, and I strive to be like her and to an attorney that she would be proud of.

How do you spend your time outside of work?

When I’m not at work, I enjoy cooking, reading, Cardinals baseball, and hiking with my German Shepherd, Ozzie.

Where is your favorite place in the world?

Home. I know that’s not a very exciting answer, but I’m a chronic homebody. Other than that, I absolutely love Universal Studios in Orlando. I grew up (and continue to be) a huge Harry Potter nerd.