Domestic Violence Education

Understanding Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence

Key Terms

Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

 

The specific term used to describe violence in a relationship. An intimate partner is a person with whom you have or had a close personal or sexual relationship.

Domestic Violence (DV) 

 

Refers to any form of violence that occurs within a household. These relationships include household relationships such as spouse/spouse, parent/child, elder/child, etc.

Dating Violence 

 

Refers to any form of violence that occurs within a dating relationship. Dating violence primarily impacts younger populations, but it is in no way limited to a certain age group.

Types of Abuse

 

 

Physical

hitting or slapping; kicking; strangling; pushing; punching; destruction of property.

 

Verbal

constant criticism and/or mocking; humiliating remarks; yelling; swearing or name-calling; interrupting; threats and intimidation. 

 

Sexual

forcing you to have sex; demanding sexual acts; taking sexual pictures without consent; forcing you to get pregnant; refusing to let you get pregnant.

 

Financial

not paying bills; refusing to give money; not allowing you to go to school or work; not allowing you to learn a new job skill; refusing to work and support the family. 

 

Emotional

not expressing feelings; not giving compliments; not paying attention; not respecting feelings, rights, opinions, and concerns; lying; breaking promises; withholding important information; being unfaithful; jealousy; not sharing domestic responsibilities; gaslighting.

Who Can Experience Domestic Violence?

 

Anyone can be affected. 

 

Studies have found no unique link between personality type and experiencing domestic violence. Changing how the person experiencing domestic violence behaves cannot stop the abuse. Domestic violence can affect more than just the primary person experiencing it. Everyone deserves to feel safe in their own home. 

Women

 

  • Women are at high risk for being seriously injured or killed by a partner.
  • Pregnant and postpartum women are especially at risk. Teen girls and young women are at high risk for dating violence.
Children

 

  • They may be abused themselves.
  • They may see their parent being abused.
  • The abuser may threaten to harm the children.
  • They grow up seeing abuse as normal.
Teens and Young Adults

 

  • Teenagers are just as vulnerable to relationship violence, and it is just as dangerous.
  • Teenagers may not seek help because they distrust adults.
People in LGBTQIA+ Relationships

 

  • People in LGBTQIA+ relationships experience domestic violence about the same rate as straight women. 
  • People in LGBTQIA+ relationships may not seek help because they don’t believe that help is available or because they fear discrimination.
  • Peace at Home provides LGBTQIA+ affirming advocacy.
Older Adults and People With Disabilities

 

  • They may be abused by their spouses or partners, adult children, or caregivers.
  • They may be physically unable to defend themselves or escape from the abuse.
  • They may be physically or mentally unable to report the abuse to anyone.
  • Men and women who have disabilities are at high risk for abuse.
Men

 

  • While a large majority of domestic violence victims are women, men can also be abused.
  • Abusers of men may be of any gender.
  • Men are very unlikely to come forward because the stigma of being labeled weak.

Frequently Asked Questions

WHAT ARE THE TYPES OF ABUSE?

There are many different ways that abuse can occur. There is physical abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, digital abuse, and emotional abuse. There is not one particular way abuse is carried out. Every situation is different, so if you or someone you know is not or might not be safe, please contact Peace at Home for help.

WHAT ARE RED FLAGS IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Red flags, also known as warning signs, demonstrate an unbalanced relationship in which one partner is attempting to control the other.  If you feel: threatened at times, isolated, unable to be independent, afraid at times, pressured into situations you're uncomfortable in, like your opinion is not valued, or that things have changed in a negative manner, these could be red flags.

WHAT ARE GREEN FLAGS IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Green flags are signs of a healthy relationship. Some examples include feeling: safe to be your true self, respected, happy, in sync with your partner, challenged in a positive way, or comfortable to make sacrifices that benefit all parts of the relationship.

HOW COMMON IS INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE?

1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime. It is important to recognize that intimate partner violence and domestic violence impact people of all genders.

 

Recent research shows that LGBTQIA+ members fall victim to domestic violence at equal or even higher rates compared to heterosexual individuals. 43.8% of lesbian women and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking from an intimate partner. 26% of gay men and 37.3% of bisexual men also report experiencing intimate partner violence during their lifetime. Research also shows that individuals that identify as transgender/non-binary are more likely to experience intimate partner violence in a public setting.

"WHY DON'T THEY JUST LEAVE?"

It is so incredibly important to understand that leaving is the most dangerous time for survivors of domestic violence. Many different factors stop people from leaving unsafe situations, spanning from: general safety risks, nowhere to go or stay, children's safety, financial dependence, feelings of shame, lack of support, and/or fear of disclosing the abuse with family or friends.

WHAT IS A SAFETY PLAN? 

 

A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you've left. Safety planning involves how to cope with emotions, telling friends and family about the abuse, taking legal action, and more. Learn more here! For help with safety planning, speak with an advocate today at 1-877-442-9811 or 479-442-9811.

 

HOW CAN I GIVE HELP? 

You can help survivors by continuing to learn about the impacts of domestic violence and intimate partner violence, learning how to recognize the warning signs, starting conversations with your friends and family about these issues, volunteering with Peace at Home, or making a gift in support of survivors rebuilding their lives after abuse. You can also follow us on social media to stay updated on events and to access bite-sized educational materials!

How can i avoid rental scams?

It is an unfortunate reality that there are scammers who create fake rental listings in order to scam 
unsuspecting people out of money or personal information. They make take a deposit from a renter and 
then disappear with the money, or even steal a person’s identity with the information they’ve received. 
This form will help you identify some red flags that will help you recognize and avoid a rental scam, as 
well as offer some tips for protecting yourself.


Rental Red Flags


• Beware of a rushed timeline
It is a red flag if a potential landlord wants your personal information or money before you view the home. This is a 
common scam. Some legitimate landlords may ask to see identification before they show the unit, but they should not 
need anything other than that just to show you the rental. The scammer might be hoping to gain access to your social 
security number, bank account number, or other very personal information. Also, if you are asked to send money before 
you view the unit, something is not right. A common scam involves collecting an application fee, deposit, or rental 
amount and then disappearing with your money.


• The price or situation is “too good to be true”
A common trick that scammers use is to post photos of a very beautiful home at a very reduced cost. If it seems like the 
home is priced for a lot less than similar rentals in the area, it is very likely a scam. 


• You notice multiple listings using the same photos or exact wording
This can be a sign of a scammer’s attempt to conduct multiple housing scams at once. Craigslist in particular offers a 
helpful tool for this issue. While in a listing on Craigslist, when you right-click on a photo, it will give you the option to 
“search image with Google”. This will bring up places online that are using that same photo, helping you identify 
whether or not they belong to a real listing. 


• The listing is missing key information, such as a contact phone number or business name
A legitimate property manager will make it easy for you to get ahold of them. Only providing an email address through 
which to contact them can be the sign of a scam, as they are easier to hide behind and more difficult to track.


• They can’t show you the apartment, or they avoid meeting with you
Many scammers will have an excuse for why they cannot show you the property. If they can’t show you the unit, it’s 
likely because they don’t actually have access. A real landlord or property manager would arrange for someone they trust 
to show you the inside if they aren’t available. This is a financial transaction, and it’s important that you have the 
opportunity to view what you’re signing up for. A real landlord will want to meet with you, not avoid you.


• The listing comes with a sad story
A tool scammers might use is creating a sad story to explain why the rental is cheaper than usual, why they’re rushing to 
rent it, etc. They may claim to have a sick family member, and sad as that may be if its true, it has nothing to do with the 
transaction of renting a home and isn’t information a potential landlord would need to share with you. 


• The listing mentions specific payment methods
When it comes to rental listings, words like “money transfer,” “Western Union,” “Prepaid Visa,” and “Moneygram” are 
all red flags. When you send money via these methods, you likely cannot get your money back! This is why scammers prefer them. 


• The listing or communications have many misspellings, they refer to you only as “Sir” or “Madame,” 
or they don’t answer your direct questions
If a potential landlord is avoiding answering your questions, referring to you in generic terms, seem as though they 
might be speaking from a script, or their language seems unprofessional, this can be a sign of a scam.


Tips for Protecting Yourself Against Scams


• Always do your research! Google the address
If you look up the address on a search engine, it might bring up listings on real estate or property management sites for 
the property you’re interested in. Check to see if the name of the person or company on the listing matches the 
information on the websites, if the phone numbers match, etc. If the information does not match, the person who 
posted the listing might be spoofing a legitimate rental.


• Look for the name of a company within the rental listing
Many online apartment listings, even when posted through a third-party website like Apartments.com, Facebook 
Marketplace, or Craigslist, will include the information for the property management company or complex that owns 
the unit. If you notice a business name or logo in the listing, they will likely have a website and direct phone number 
that you can find by googling the company name. You can contact these companies directly rather than going through 
the listing, to add a layer of protection and get accurate information directly from the source.


• Use your county assessor’s public website to research the property’s owner
Landlords aren’t the only ones who can do a little research on their potential tenants– you as the renter are allowed to 
do some research as well! This is especially helpful if you’re trying to rent through a private owner, rather than a 
company. Most land ownership records are public, so you can use this tool to help confirm that the person trying to 
rent a unit to you is in fact the owner. If you run the address through the county assessor’s website, it will provide you 
with the full name of the property’s current owner. If this information does not match who you are speaking to, you 
may be communicating with a scammer. 


• Do your best to make sure that the person you are meeting is really the owner/property manager
Using the tips outlined above is helpful, but also keep in mind that if someone meets you at the unit but only lets you 
look in the windows, for example, they likely aren't the actual owner. A real landlord will have full access to the unit, 
and will want to be able to answer your questions. They won’t act like you’re doing them a favor in renting from them 
either, so be wary of them sharing sad stories about why they’re renting out the unit.


• Do not send money or very personal information before touring the unit 
This is a very common tool of scammers, and the easiest way to protect yourself is to avoid these actions. Be careful 
with your very personal information, to avoid becoming a victim of identity theft. 


• Avoid sending payment via wire transfer, Western Union, Prepaid Visa, Moneygram, etc.
It is virtually impossible to get your money back if you send it via one of these methods, which is why scammers prefer 
receiving money this way. Money orders can be difficult to track also, so it’s a good idea to avoid these as well. 
A scammer might also ask for you to make a payment with gift cards, which a legitimate landlord would not do.


• Always trust your gut instinct
Your instincts are there to protect you. If something seems like it might be a scam, it likely is. If you’re unsure, you can 
always reach out to your advocate or another Peace at Home staff to look at the listing with you! A second opinion can 
be helpful.

Educational Resources

 
We offer online training for groups and organizations interested in learning more about Peace at Home and domestic violence issues. Current training sessions include: 
 
Introduction to Peace at Home: EXPLAINS our programs, philosophy, impact, and ways to get involved.

INTRODUCTION TO Domestic Violence: Covers the definitions of domestic and intimate partner violence, common strategies of abuse, barriers to leaving, and our services. ‚ÄčThis training is an excellent introduction to advocacy for professionals and community groups. 
 
Healthy relationships: COVERS THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN HEALTHY, UNHEALTHY, AND ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP BEHAVIORS, BARRIERS TO LEAVING, AND our SERVICES. THIS training is a great way to engage in conversation about violence prevention and relationship health. 
 

 

To schedule a training or request materials for your organization, please fill out this form or contact Eryn Scheyder, our Community Education Coordinator, at escheyder@peaceathomeshelter.com.

 

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