“If you try to leave me, I’ll…” Threats in Domestic Violence

Often times, abusers will use threats to keep a victim of domestic violence from trying to leave the relationship.

Common threats that survivors have told us they have heard from their abusive partners include threats to  –

  • Abduct the children or seek sole custody
  • Get the victim fired from their workplace
  • Have the victim deported or destroy their immigration documents
  • Harm the family pet
  • Destroy any property or possessions left behind
  • “Out” the victim to coworkers or family members 
  • Commit suicide or other self-harm
  • Become more physically violent or kill the victim

It is important to remember that no one deserves to be or enjoys being abused and that leaving a violent relationship is the most dangerous time for the victim. Abusers often feel very much out of control at this point and tend to retaliate and become more violent as a result. Statistically, this time is the most dangerous for victims:

75% of women who are killed as the result of a violent relationship are killed after the relationship has ended.

The fear felt by many victims of domestic violence is why emergency shelter like Peace at Home Family Shelter is so crucial.

If your partner is threatening you to keep you in the relationship, we can help.

Find a safe phone and contact us at 479-442-9811 and remember to always call 911 if there is an emergency or you feel your life is in danger.

2 Responses to “If you try to leave me, I’ll…” Threats in Domestic Violence

  1. I have a daughter that is in a domestic violence situation and has recently left the relationship with a medically compromised son, she is residing in a shelter. How can I help her best. She has no financial resources at this time, my resources are limited. How can I help her, she is very discouraged and overwhelmed.

    • Thank you so much for recognizing that your daughter needs your support during what must be a very difficult time for her and for wanting to provide that support. Having a safety net of caring friends or family can make a world of difference to a survivor of domestic violence trying to start over. You can help her by providing a listening, non-judgmental ear, offering assistance with childcare or transportation if something like that is needed, helping her research housing options in her area, and by letting her know that you care about her and will always be there for her. If you’d like additional advice on how to be a supportive family member to a survivor, contact one of our advocates at 479-442-9811.

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