If you are in an emergency situation, CALL 911 NOW!
If you or someone you know is in a violent relationship, please call 877-442-9811 to reach our 24-hour crisis hotline. Our bi-lingual staff is available to talk about your particular situation, provide emotional support, offer referrals to community resources, and help with leaving your abuser. Staff can also help you with the most important considerations in leaving -- safety planning. If you are not ready to speak with someone about your situation, please read the information we have for you on this site. When you feel ready to reach out, call us.
The following are some suggested tips in developing a safety plan; however, remember that you know your abuser and specific situation best, so listen to your instincts in choosing which of these may or may not be safe for you. Please call 877-442-9811 to learn more about safety planning.
Handling a Violent Incident
Victims cannot always avoid violent incidents of abuse. To increase safety a Victim can use various strategies.
- if deciding to leave, have a plan of departure (such as which window, door, stairwell, etc.)
- keep purse and keys ready for the departure
- tell neighbors to call police if suspicious noises are heard
- teach children to call the police, neighbor, relatives
- select a code word that the children, friends, neighbors know to call the police
- start your own savings or checking account
Checklist of Items to Take when Leaving
- identification for self -- such as driver's license, social security cards, passport, green card, public assistance ID, work permit, etc
- money, credit cards, checkbook, bank card
- important documents -- such as birth certificates, social security cards, school and vaccination records, medical records, welfare identification records, marriage/divorce papers, protective order
- lease/rental agreements or house deed
- insurance papers
- house, office, car keys
- address book, jewelry, irreplaceable items
- financial documents -- such as income tax records, savings accounts, bank books, IRS
- children's favorite toys and/or blankets
- anything that would be impossible or hard to replace should the abuser decide to destroy it
- If your safety is at risk, just leave. Don't worry about getting any of these items if you are in danger
Possible Signs of Abuse
Does your partner...
- act jealous or possessive toward you?
- refuse to let you have other friends?
- check up on you?
- have extreme mood swings?
- become hypersensitive to criticism or perceived criticism?
- blame others for his/her problems, feelings, or behaviors?
- refuse or is unable to discuss or compromise?
- always have to be in control?
- get too serious too fast?
- pressure you to abuse drugs/alcohol?
- pressure you for sex?
- mistreat animals or children?
- own or use weapons or display them to back up threats?
- break or hit objects?
- humiliate you?
- become violent with you?
Ways to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship
Domestic violence is a serious crime -- not a private family matter. There is no "typical" abuser or "typical" victim. Domestic violence happens to families and people of every age, race, and socioeconomic status. Call us at 479-442-9811 for more information.
Ways to Help:
- believe what your friend tells you
- express your concern
- tell your friend that it is NOT her fault
- offer your friend options (like calling our crisis hotline)
- don't be upset with her if she makes a decision you disagree with
- don't give up on her
Abuse in Later Life
Abuse in later life is any abuse and neglect of person age 50 and older by a caregiver or another person in a relationship involving an expectation of trust. Any older person, regardless of gender, age, race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status or sexual orientation can be a victim of abuse in later life. Individuals with physical or mental impairments are especially vulnerable to abuse. Remember help is available 24 hours a day.
If you suspect an older adult may need protection from possible abuse, call Adult Protective Services at 479-482-8049.
To talk with someone confidentially about abuse in later life, call a Peace at Home advocate at 479-442-9811.
- emotional support
- safety planning
- individual and group counseling
- emergency shelter
- financial assistance
- legal options
- crisis intervention
- housing assistance